You talk in the book about how you process a lot of traumatic situations through humor, can you explain that to me?
I call it my funny filter – I was processing my trauma through humor which made it easier than accepting the reality for what it was. And it was positive initially, but now I am seeing some of the fall out from that. Just because I wasn’t being honest about my feelings at that time, I was not really managing the fear in that moment. You can’t get away from it, they’re real human emotions and to just choose not to feel them isn’t realistic long term- you still have to process those emotions, because they’re going to come out one way or another.
When it comes to processing traumas, whether medical or emotional- although the two are often one in the same, what is a piece of advice you would give people going through the thick of it?
I don’t advise comedy for everybody, but I think I would say to find something that you enjoy that distracts you. So for me that was writing and using humor that isn’t funny at all to help process through it. Which if that’s not your bag, find something else that distracts you. If you don’t have an outlet, you’re not going to be okay. Don’t just sit with your crap. Even if that means you’re delaying you’re coping, maybe it’s too soon to process while you’re in it. Give yourself that grace, right now it’s easier for me to talk about it 4 years later it because it isn’t as overwhelming. So I guess my overall advice is to give yourself some time, you’re not going to just muscle your way through it.